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Have you ever questioned everything you believe?

Have you ever had a moment that made you lose your faith, question God & completely doubt everything you ever believed? It happened to me just four short years ago.

I grew up southern Baptist style, church on Sunday lunch after church at the pastors house as a kid. I was baptized in the Pee Dee River in SC (with my tennis shoes on).
As a teenager I completely threw Jesus to the wind & went on a rebellious saga to prove I didn’t care what anyone thought of me & the more scandalous & vulgar my behavior…. The better!

BUT GOD….. In His graciousness saved me from myself back in 2002 & my life started to completely turn around. I learned to have some couth & class. I learned to respect myself through a series of people He placed in my path. My life consisted of attending church, bible study, women’s small groups for the next 10 years. I ate, drank, slept & breathed the word of God in an attempt to have a deeper relationship with Him & understanding of my purpose on this earth.

I moved around to a few different churches over this time & wound up in an extremely small one that met in people’s homes. This is where my faith got shattered……… The married pastor (as he called himself) decided to make several passes at me & kiss me. Long story short I removed myself quickly from the congregation & further learned that he had been having an affair for 6 of his 7 married years. Apparently he thought I was the next conquest.

In this moment my world turned UP SIDE DOWN! Literally it tore down everything I believed about the goodness of people & the goodness of God. My mind literally shut down to anything to do with God, scripture or Christians.

I tell you all of this to say God didn’t hurt you, a human did. Though your relationship with Him may look different than it used to He didn’t leave you! The still small voice, the nudging whispers you hear in your black hole of despair….. That’s Him……. lovingly saying “You are going to make it through this & I will never leave you alone”.

In everything that happens to us in this life we have a choice to be a victim or be a victor. I chose to move on & let my trials sharpen me & make me stronger. Now, I’m not so naïve. Now, I guard my heart. Now, I test the word of God instead of taking it from the mouth of another. If someone has hurt you….. Don’t let that ruin your destiny. Remember who YOU are called to be & cling to that!

Don’t be shut off

*** Metamorphosis Monday ***

Be ready, willing & open to test new thoughts & ideas. Don’t live your life so closed off & ridged to one thought process or perspective. Living closed off & from the position that you already know all you need to know, greatly limits the possibilities you get to experience. We can learn for a lifetime & there will still be something we don’t know. Listen to someone you wouldn’t normally hear. Read a book that’s out of your realm of thought. Go to an event a friend invited you to even though you think it will be boring. You never know what’s waiting if you only open yourself up to it.

*** Metamorphosis Monday ***

Do you ever CRINGE when someone quotes you a cliché….. “if you want something you have never had you’ll have to do something you have never done”! I know, I know! These quotes can get downright annoying….. Especially when you are just NOT FEELIN it!

BUT……. This doesn’t make any of the cliché statements any less true. Our brains are so unbelievably smart that we have dooped ourselves! We have to change the story of why we can’t or why we won’t do EVERYTHING we need to, in order to get where we want to go in this life.

We can’t just keep trudging along & just hope for the best. We MUST TAKE ACTION. Change your behavior, change your responses, change your actions to reflect what you want out of life, not where you are. Change your speech & what you say about yourself to yourself. Mix it up & keep  your mind guessing.

*** Don’t Show up Empty Handed ***

Even if you have been assured there is plenty or food & drinks to go around. This is your opportunity to lavish the host who put all that time & effort into creating a great experience for everyone. Bring something unexpected like flowers, a great book or a candle. It makes them feel appreciated & it’s such an unexpected surprise!

*** Be Polite ***

Common curtesy goes so far & yet it is so overlooked. People just want to be appreciated & loved. Saying thank you, please & your welcome may sound so simple. Too often we are wrapped up in our day, in our minds, in our crazy life that we forget to pay attention & say excuse me. This is a really easy thing that can either make someone’s day or break it. It can also be the difference between someone willing to help you & someone making your day miserable. Pay attention, be kind. It goes so much further.

*** Listen to others ***

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to remember names?! It’s because we are so busy thinking about what we are going to say….. That we never retain their name! I believe we would get so much more out of our friendships & relationships if we would listen more & speak less. If you’re always talking you can’t be listening & that means you are not learning or growing. Listening provides a safe place for friends to lay out a situation & often times find the solution without you ever saying a word. Somehow they just needed someone to talk to! By expressing ideals allowed & in the face of someone else it sheds a fresh light on reality. You will gain so much knowledge & experience life vicariously through others if you just listen a little longer.

*** Practice Forgiveness ***

If for nothing else to free yourself from the heaviness of that negative emotions. The person that you hate does not feel the strain or weight of your hatred. By carrying all that around inside you further give them power over you. Can’t you see, they are still in control of your emotions. I’m not saying excuse what they have done, I’m just saying RELEASE YOURSELF!